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Disability etiquette



How to behave and speak around a disabled person.


Text: Michaela Medveďová / Anna Pawlowicz Pics: Pexels


According to the World Health Organization, an estimated 1.6 billion people - or 16% of the world's population - live with a disability. By the number alone, it is clear that society is not unfamiliar with disability.


But besides ableism - or "prejudice and discrimination aimed at disabled people, often with a patronising desire to 'cure' their disability and make them 'normal'" - people with disabilities might be faced with the reality that their disability can make non-disabled people uncomfortable.


In this issue, we will dive into why this happens - and what tips or resources you can implement in your disability etiquette.


Why are non-disabled people uncomfortable around disability?

Research from 2014 showed that 67% of people feel uncomfortable talking to disabled people. Bascule Disability Training dove into the topic to discover the reason for these feelings of discomfort. Their respondents highlighted these main reasons:

  • 35% believed it was fear of offending

  • 18% believed they didn't know what to say

  • 10% thought it was fear of patronising

  • 38% thought it was a lack of experience communicating with people with disabilities


Building up your disability confidence

As most of the replies above suggest, when people are experiencing discomfort while talking to a person with a disability, it is not necessarily driven by prejudice or desire to discriminate - it likely often stems from a lack of experience or expertise.


However, you can always strive to challenge your attitudes and increase your own understanding of and skills around disability - in short, building your disability confidence by educating yourself about disability and the needs and preferences of the disabled community.


Getting your disability confidence to a new level can take time, but it's easier than you expect. We hope that this collection of practical tips will be a helpful starting point.


Here are the key points to consider in disability etiquette:

1. Treat a disabled person the way you'd like to be treated. Kindness, patience and

respect go a long way in every interaction, and this golden rule of politeness is

fundamental.

2. Communicate with a disabled person just as you would with a non-disabled person.

If an assistant or caretaker is present, you can still directly address the person with

a disability. Always assume that they can hear and understand every word you say.

3. Avoid unnecessary or personal comments like: 'Have you tried yoga?'. People with

disabilities are experts in their conditions, and you can be sure they've tried plenty

of options to ensure their well-being. Also, they've likely been asked about yoga at

least once that day.

4. Don't talk down to disabled people, regardless of whether they're a child or adult.

Presume competence and speak normally. It's surprising how often individuals with

disabilities complain about being talked to as if they were a baby.

5. Avoid touching any aids, like a wheelchair, cane, walker, etc. Disabled individuals

often refer to their mobility aids as extensions of their bodies. Touching the aids feels

like trespassing on their personal space.

6. Don't touch or pet service animals. A service dog may indeed be the gentlest dog

you've seen in a while, but they're likely performing their job, and your interaction

may distract them from providing support to the disabled individual.

7. Don't try to help a disabled person without asking first. Everyone values their

independence, and that includes people with disabilities. They're experts in

navigating the world and in most cases, they will ask for help if they need it.

8. If you're passing a disabled person on the street, look at them as you would look at

any other person. Don't stare, but also don't make a point of looking away.

Individuals with disabilities tend to agree that looking away hurts more than staring.

9. Don't use accessible amenities if you do not need them. If you live with a disability,

planning any outing takes a lot of time – finding an accessible parking or toilet can be

difficult. If non-disabled people use these amenities, disabled individuals may be

stranded. Additionally, remember that 80% of disabilities are invisible, and despite

their 'typical' looks, they are fully entitled to using accessible toilets and parking

spaces.


These nine points are the foundation of disability etiquette. If you'd like to learn more, we highly recommend the book 'Demystifying Disability: What to Know, What to Say, and How to be an Ally' by American author and disability activist Emily Ladau. It's a wonderful resource that's helped many non-disabled individuals realise that disability isn't something we should be scared of. It's a normal part of the human experience.


At The International, we fully agree that the change in the perception of disability in our society can only come if each of us becomes an active ally. We encourage you to explore Disability Pride events in international communities, and if you have any questions about this topic, please contact us at The International at lyndsay@the-intl.com

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